Dating but not in love
I see far too many people jumping into relationships and not guarding their affections, only to become confused, disillusioned, and devastated.We need to keep telling ourselves the basic truths of a healthy and truly loving relationship. While you spend time getting to know someone as a friend, you are able to see more clearly whether they are right for you and you for them.
While this makes for good entertainment, it isn’t real life.
I've dated people before who I did not have fun with, I thought they smelled kind of weird, and didn't really respect them as a person, but man, were they ever mean to me!
Do I see myself getting married to the guy who threw up at three — — different locations in my apartment during the course of a night?
It’s usually based on an obsession, or idealization, more than a genuine appreciation and acceptance of who the other person is. Well, when you love someone, it is pretty effortless.
There is a tremendous difference between real, true love and unhealthy obsession or fixation… It is true and pure – you don’t need them to be any certain way.